✶ For Maximum Success, Feel Free to Change

I’ve reincarnated a lot in my life: I’ve tried on various blog pseudonyms, I’ve branded countless offshoots of my businesses, I’ve rewritten the same sentence countless times to find a more pleasing format.

And every time I’ve explored new territory, redesigned my site, written the same sentence over and over again to find a pleasing format, I’ve found improvement.

“For maximum success, feel free to change goals.”

I read that line in an article I was reading the other day, and I found it so startlingly freeing. Yes, we can change, but for far too long as a society we’ve feared that reality. I started my career in a world where not having a business plan was a suicide mission, but I’ve always found pivoting to be beneficial for me. It’s unnerving at times, but discomfort has only ever brought growth in one way, shape or another, and it’s refreshing to see major platforms finally endorsing change—not just as a personal tool for growth, but as a means to find success. I feel relieved and also frustrated that it took so long. But that’s the funny thing about learning and growing: hindsight is always 2020.

Even when it’s for the better, however, change can be uncomfortable and confronting. As you break down walls and chip away at old patterns and ways of doing things, you might feel a little out of your own skin and wish to abandon parts of yourself.

But remember you are ALL of the people you’ve been. Your past selves are not to be tossed aside, but incorporated into how you want to be moving forward. Change doesn’t have to force out the old, it can embrace it. After all, that life got you here.

The truth is I am many ways at many different times. I can pivot and shape-shift and adapt. And so can you! The only times I ever feel insecure are the times I falsely believe that I am simply one way—when I forget that I carry this big metaphorical bag of knowledge and skills and experience and interests that I continually add to. And each time I morph to grow, I have to remind myself to make room for myself, rather than squeeze out or replace older operating systems, so to speak.

We have the capacity to show up however we want, whenever we want. You can create and turn on whatever version of you that you need today. And then again tomorrow. And the next day.


Hope you’re all well and enjoying the beauty still to be found in this world! Happy July, friends.

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For maximum success, feel free to change. It’s startlingly freeing to let that sink in, and yet for too long, we’ve feared that reality because change can be uncomfortable and confronting. I change a lot. At the risk of seeming flaky, I’ve learned to embrace my natural tendency to shape-shift. It doesn’t always lead to brilliance—sometimes it FEELS like a waste—but every time I’ve explored new territory, I’ve found improvement. I’ve also found it tough to remember to incorporate— not squeeze out. As you chip away at old or unhealthy patterns and ways of doing things, you might wish to abandon parts of yourself. But remember you are ALL of the people you’ve been! Your past selves are not to be tossed aside, but incorporated into how you want to be moving forward. The times I feel most insecure are the times I falsely believe that I am simply one way—when I forget that I carry this big metaphorical bag of knowledge and skills and experience and interests that I continually add to. The times I feel most powerless are the times I forget that I can change my experience by simply CHANGING — my mindset, my surroundings, who I spend my time with, what I spend it on.  As you grow and change, be kind to yourself! Remember to make room for yourself rather than to let new operating systems squeeze out or replace older ones. You can create and turn on whatever version of yourself you want, right here, right now 🤍

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